If you're considering adoption, an important issue you'll face is whether you're interested in adopting a child whose race, ethnic background, or culture is different than yours. Many prospective adoptive parents are clear that they want to bring a child into their family who looks like them, while others are open to creating a multi-racial, multi-ethnic, or multi-cultural family.

The following is a discussion on adopting a child from a different culture, race, or ethnicity.

Adopting a Child From a Different Culture:

In the United States, couples often adopt children with racial, ethnic, and cultural backgrounds that are vastly different than their own. The adopted children may be African American, Latino, or Asian, or they may have been born in another country. In any case, it's quite common for adoptive families to represent the overall diversity of the United States.

When you adopt internationally, you bring a child from their birth country and culture to another country with its own culture. If your physical features match your new child's, you may find that the adjustment is much easier. However, parents who adopt internationally typically bring into their families a child who looks entirely different than they do.

Skin color, eye color, hair texture, and build may differ dramatically. These families face challenges both in the home and wherever they go.

Multi-Cultural Families

When they delve into their feelings, many prospective adoptive parents admit that they want children who look like them. Often couples come to adoption after experiencing infertility; the idea of adopting a child from a different culture or race brings home the reality that they will never have children biologically.

The truth is, children adopted into homes with such differences face incredible challenges. The following scenarios are actually quite common:

A Latino boy adopted into a Caucasian home in New England was the only child of color in his school. He was taunted and derided for being different. An African girl in a family of African-Americans felt that her heritage and culture were ignored so that she would "fit in." The Korean adoptee in the Jewish home always felt uncomfortable at religious gatherings, and as she grew up she struggled with her faith.

Most adoption professionals concur that parents who adopt a child from a different culture, race, or ethic background should work to make the child's birth culture a part of their new family life. This can mean joining multi-cultural support groups, attending religious services, incorporating food and festivals into family life, taking lessons in the child's birth language, or enrolling the child in a school with children from various backgrounds.

You also may want to decorate your home with images reflecting your child's race or culture. This is important for the child's self-image and the parents' education as they try to become the best parents they can be. On the other hand, parents must be sensitive not to make the child's birth culture or race a point of difference in the family. In a sense, when the Italian-American family adopts a Ukrainian boy, the whole family becomes Italian-Ukrainian-American.

Adopting a Child From a Different Culture? Hire a Lawyer

Adoption can be a real blessing for a family, but it can also come with its own set of challenges. This is particularly true when a family is adopting a child from a different background, culture, or even country than their own. While it can be a source of strength for a family and a community, there are times where it may also require greater understanding and perspective. This is why it's a good idea to consult with a family law attorney.