Posted on / May 05, 2020 05:37:00 If I understand you correctly, you and your sister would rather expose yourselves and have your mother die in your home or in your sister's home in another state that have her cared for and die in a nursing home where she might infect others. This may not be doable. She may not be able to travel. If she is able to travel, it probably cannot be by public transportation, such as a plane. If you or your sister drive to get her, put her in a car and drive her to one of your homes, you are greatly increasing the chance that you will become infected and unable to care for her or yourselves. You write that you and your siblings are all over 65. A Kaiser Family Foundation study of people over 65 admitted to hospitals with covid-19 found that ALL of those who were placed on ventilators died. You and your sister could also infect others. If your mother is 95 and ill enough that she needs 24/7 care, she may not survive the trip. This is particularly true if she is as near death as the doctor described: someone who is better off receiving comfort care. If she is, please note that as we approach death, our bodies know that we do not need further nutrition. Withholding it is not starving someone to death: it is letting life take its course. While your wish to care for your mother is laudable, sadly, you may not be able to carry it out. After discussing the situation further with your siblings, you might want to see whether you can communicate with your mother by tablet or by cell phone and then talk with a discharge planner at the hospital. A hospital is not allowed to discharge someone to an unsafe environment. Given what you wrote of your mother's condition, discharge to a skilled nursing facility may be much safer than discharge to your car and your home. I know this must be difficult, excrutiatingly painful. Too many of us are in this position, having to accept what we would otherwise find unacceptable.