Wrongful Death and Spouse abandoned handling deceased affairs

How can I for the children's sake, obtain medical records needed for wrongful death suit filing when wife of deceased won't cooperate/sign authorization for release? She has abandoned his estate affairs although he had no written will and had received about $30,000 from sales of his business items yet never reported to IRS, Soc.SEC, or gave children anything. She spent all the money on shopping and drug use (have proof and witnesses). She is incompetent and was in a mental institution for a few days, also. It has been close to a year since my children's father died and she has done nothing at all, despite my calls, deceased family's calls to her, etc. Thank you.

Bounced check

A company I did some work for either put a stop payment or bounced a check on me in the amount of $3,000. What are my options? I was told I could sue them for 3 x's the amount if they bounced the check, is this true?

alimony

i have been divorced 18 months and owe my ex 5k per month in alimony for 4 more years. i just lost all my businesses and real estate to my bank and am forced to file BK. i havent been able to make a payment since this happened 3 months ago and am still not working or earning income. my ex had a receiver appointed and i've been advised that they are going to try and put me in jail. i have intentions to pay my obligation to ex but have no money right now. what can i do?